I am a Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in California (MFC #34901), a Consultant specializing in Ethics, and an author based in the Santa Cruz Mountains. Welcome to my site.
A special focus of my practice is helping clients revitalize everyday life by integrating the meaning and extra-ordinary gifts of spiritual emergence, transpersonal experiences and “personal paradigm shift” phenomena, a term Kylea coined for the situation when someone has encountered new information or change, and thus their paradigm or belief system feels too small for them, because they are seeing themselves and their world differently. These extra-ordinary experiences can arise in many ways, for example meditation, yoga, spiritual practices, breathwork, depression, childbirth, trauma regression, entheogenic medicines, addiction recovery, hypnosis, and energy release therapies may serve as a catalyst for these experiences.
Radical changes can be confusing and overwhelming at times. Yet they often reveal a path to a new vista, one that opens up to an enriched, more authentic life. Learning how to listen and collaborate creatively with our Inner Healer can make all the difference, and an experienced therapist can help you shed a light on the way forward. Learn more about my therapy practice.
InnerEthics™ & Right Relationship
The InnerEthics™ model clarifies the unique ethical territory of understanding and working skillfully with clients who are experiencing profound and extra-ordinary states of consciousness. Two terms that describe this model are Inner Ethics and Right Relationship. This model also covers the basics of ethics, transference, and countertransference fundamental to ethical professional practice with an emphasis on relational ethics to prevent client harm and increase client benefit. These two approaches to ethics, internal and external, are complementary and represent a holistic approach to ethical discernment and behavior.
Ethics and the Web of Life
Ethics is the study of relationship. Transcending the limited viewpoint that we are unrelated, wholly separate is essential for ethical development. We are interconnected in the web of life. We are all in this together. When we begin to widen our view to see and honor a web-like context of relationships, we speak and act more ethically. Relationship itself is at the heart of healing. And ethics and integrity are at the heart of any healing relationship. Read about InnerEthics™.
If you are a mental health or medical professional, leader, mentor, employer, educator or wellness therapist facing an ethical challenge in relationship with colleagues or clients, I’d like to help you review your goals, values, and intentions. My special area of ethics expertise is the conscious impulses and unconscious motivations that can draw us into unethical behavior. As a consultant and your ally, I would help you gain insight and clarify what is “right relationship” in your particular ethical situation.
We will use the InnerEthics™ model to guide a process of compassionate self-inquiry and decision-making. To help you create or renew a personal ethical code, we may explore the Professional Vulnerabilities to Ethical Misconduct and the four Keys to Professional Ethical Behavior as examples of additional resources available to tailor a consultation specifically to your unique situation. Learn more about InnerEthics™ Consultations.
The Ethics of Caring is a unique and widely recommended text that complements standard ethics texts by helping the student or professional find right relationship with a client. Written for practicing therapy and medical professionals, bodyworkers, clergy, students, teachers, supervisors, and mentors, the InnerEthics™ model first promotes self-compassion, then gently guides self-reflection about unconscious countertransference that often occurs in the main areas of human life. The book illuminates many extraordinary types of human experiences to help professionals become aware in case clients bring these profound states in some way to the professional for support.
The Ethics of Caring received the Silver Medal book award from Nautilus Book Awards in the category “Relationships and Communication.” Published November 1, 2017.
The Ethics of Caring is an extraordinarily helpful and groundbreaking new book for healers, clergy, therapists, and bodyworkers that illuminates what is necessary to offer wise and trustworthy relations to their clients. Kylea has grounded her work in the spiritual principle of reverence for life that underlies all the world’s great religions and healing systems. She elaborates upon the basic principles of non-harming as they are needed for the vast terrain of healing realms, including crisis of trauma, loss and grief work, spiritual counseling, expanded consciousness, and energetic and shamanic openings. The Ethics of Caring alerts healers not to underestimate the power of energies that arise in extraordinary states through transference and countertransference.
~ Jack Kornfield, Ph.D., author of A Wise Heart, A Lamp in the Darkness, The Art of Forgiveness and Lovingkindness, A Path with Heart, and After the Ecstasy the Laundry
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